Tonight while watching the Bachelorette (totally boring but we will leave that for another post) I started looking back at all 1009 photos that I am tagged in on Facebook. I started to think about all the friends that I have all over the world and how relationships and friendships change over time. Of course people and friendships change overtime but I got to thinking about what do some of these people mean to me, how do they fit in my life, what was their purpose in my life.
There is a great quote that started to weigh on my mind as I was looking though these pictures
"Some people come into our lives and quickly go.
Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our hearts.
And we are never, ever the same."
-Unknown
I have very different friendships with every one of my friends. Jason often accuses me of calling people "friends" when I have only met them once but that is how I live my life. I don't believe that people can have too many friends. I do believe that it is ok to call someone a friend after only meeting them once. I also believe in the quote above that some people come and go quickly and some stay for a while but either way I am not the same person I was before I met that person. What I wish is to know if that person is suppose to come and go quickly or if it is a friendship I am suppose to fight for and keep our friendship alive.
For example I have several different groups of friends. High school, college, sorority sisters, Greek Life at ESU, communication (my major), camp, grad school, fraternity/sorority professionals, UNI, Jaycees. I like categories. I like keeping my friends in their category and I don't like the categories to cross. I am also really bad at fighting for friendships. Once that phase of my life is over, for the most part I let those friendships go. The are a few exceptions to that rule and sometimes that makes me sad. Sometimes I wonder if I should fight harder to keep friendship alive. Don't get me wrong, I have only once wrote someone out of my life. For the most part my friendships don't end they are just put on pause until we have a reason to interact again. At any minute I could call one of those past friendship and have a great conversation but that is just it, I don't pick the phone up, I don't write, I don't make an effort.
Now I can't totally be to blame because those other people don't pick up the phone, don't write and don't make an effort but if I am the one wanting the friendship to continue should I be the one to open that door? This brings me back to my original question: what friendships am I suppose to fight for and what friendships are only suppose to be there for a short time.
For example I have several different groups of friends. High school, college, sorority sisters, Greek Life at ESU, communication (my major), camp, grad school, fraternity/sorority professionals, UNI, Jaycees. I like categories. I like keeping my friends in their category and I don't like the categories to cross. I am also really bad at fighting for friendships. Once that phase of my life is over, for the most part I let those friendships go. The are a few exceptions to that rule and sometimes that makes me sad. Sometimes I wonder if I should fight harder to keep friendship alive. Don't get me wrong, I have only once wrote someone out of my life. For the most part my friendships don't end they are just put on pause until we have a reason to interact again. At any minute I could call one of those past friendship and have a great conversation but that is just it, I don't pick the phone up, I don't write, I don't make an effort.
Now I can't totally be to blame because those other people don't pick up the phone, don't write and don't make an effort but if I am the one wanting the friendship to continue should I be the one to open that door? This brings me back to my original question: what friendships am I suppose to fight for and what friendships are only suppose to be there for a short time.
1 comment:
Friendships are so important to me. I to have many different "friends" people that I met once and maybe don't talk to a lot but I still call them my friends.
I have a group of girls that I have been friends with for 20+ years and it's hard to maintain those friendships at times because everyone gets wrapped up in their own life and families. I do get hurt when a friend doesn't make an effort to maintain our friendship but I guess I could try harder too.
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